Croatia (Dravet Sindrom Hrvatska)
France (Alliance Syndrome de Dravet)
Germany (Dravet Syndrom Eltern-Selbsthilfe)
Italy (Dravet Italia Onlus)
Italy (Gruppo Famiglie Dravet)
Netherlands (Stichting Dravetsyndrooom)
Romania (Dravet Romania)
Spain (Apoyo Dravet)
Spain (La Fundación Síndrome de Dravet)
Sweden (Dravets Syndrome Association Sweden)
Switzerland (Swiss Dravet Syndrome Association)
UK (Dravet Syndrome UK)
COPING WITH GRIEF & LOSS
Losing someone you love or care about, particularly a child, is very painful. You may experience all kinds of difficult emotions and it may feel like the sadness you are experiencing will never go away. These are normal reactions to the loss of a loved one. Remember that there is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to cope with the pain.
It is important that you take care of yourself and get support and/or professional help to work through the emotions you are feeling. Make certain your surviving children understand that you recognize their loss and grieving and that you love them. Open communication will help the entire family through the grieving process.
HELP WE CAN OFFER
When you lose a child, the pain is indescribable and the silence can be deafening. With the loss comes many questions and uncertainty about the future. Although there is no clear answer to these questions, we are here to help you through this journey of grief that can only be described as exhausting.
Everyone grieves differently, and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. Do whatever it is that you have to do to get through each day. Most importantly, be gentle with yourself and allow yourself to grieve.
My name is Jenny Tischer. I understand the grief that you are experiencing at this tragic time. I lost my daughter in 2010 from complications due to Dravet Syndrome. In the last few years, I began volunteering at our local Children’s Hospital with the bereavement department, reaching out to parents who recently suffered the loss of a child. I am here to support you in any way that I can. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org for help and support. You can read my daughter’s story here.
Myself and others within DSF can help by:
- Contacting families after a loss
- Sending support materials
- Offer supportive resources
- Admittance to the Bereavement & Loss Support Group
- Follow-up support
WAYS TO HELP A GRIEVING PARENT & FAMILY
- Let your concern and caring show.
- Be available to do whatever is needed, including just listen. Being avoided by others only adds to a grieving parent’s pain.
- Tell parents you are sorry about what happened to their child and about their pain, but don’t say you know how they feel. Only other parents who have had a child die really know what that is like.
- Let parents grieve in their own way and at their own pace. It is not helpful to tell them what they should feel or do.
- Encourage parents to be patient with themselves and not to expect too much. This is not the time for “shoulds” or “ought to’s.”
- Don’t try to fix parents’ pain. Reminding them that they still have other children or that they can have another child suggests the child who died is replaceable and not unique.
- Use the child’s name and share your special memories of the child with his or her parents. Allow them to talk about their child as much and as often as they want to. They may cry but they also will tell you that it makes them happy to talk about their child.
- Remember birthdays, anniversaries and other special days. Grieving parents want to know their child has not been forgotten.
- Give special attention to the child’s brothers and sisters, not only immediately following the death, but also in the months to come. They also are grieving and need support and understanding.
The vision of Dravet Syndrome Foundation is to help researchers find ways to one day prevent or cure Dravet syndrome and related ion channel epilepsies so that future generations do not have to face the devastation of these diseases.
Dravet Syndrome Foundation supports Dr. Alica Goldman and her colleagues at the Department of Neurology at Baylor College of Medicine in their establishment of a seizure disorder tissue bank, the SUDEP Tissue Donation Program (STOP SUDEP). This project is funded by The National Institutes of Health (NIH)/The National Institute for Neurological Disorders and Strokes (NINDS). Investigators are collecting blood and/or tissue samples from individuals who have passed away as a result of a seizure disorder. We ask that you consider pre-registering for tissue donation once a clinical diagnosis has been made.
We understand that tissue donation occurs at a particularly emotional time for loved ones and that it is a personal and difficult decision that will not be right for everyone. By making this generous donation, you improve the chances of finding a cure and better treatment options for these diseases. If you or your loved ones have questions about the donation process, please contact Dr. Alica Goldman.
Below are links to brief videos that help explain the tissue donation process:
Tissue donation is a very special gift, but is one about which you may have more questions about. We seek to address some of these questions here.